You know those embarrassing questions you're too afraid to ask in bed, like how to make anal sex more comfortable? Well, they're probably holding you back from having an even more fulfilling sex life. Like, did you know you can orgasm during anal sex? It's not always easy opening up about sex.
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2. Understand What’s Going On Down There
Of all the sex acts out there you can try, anal sex comes with some of the most vicious rumors. I don't just mean the rumor that everyone said Stephanie from high school was doing it, or the weird, creeping thought that all your friends are secretly doing it behind your back pun intended. I mean the rumor that it's always painful, but if you want to try it, you just sort of have to put up with it and dive into butt stuff, head- or I guess ass- first. And then you just deal with all the insane injuries that happen later. Some good news though. Just like it's probably not true that Stephanie was having it with Todd in sixth grade or whatever, it's also not true that anal sex has to hurt or be dangerous, at all. In fact, like all other sex things, it shouldn't hurt, so long as you're properly prepared.
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A little preparation will help a lot. One of the common misconceptions is that anal sex will hurt, weaken or damage the anal muscles. People have enjoyed anal sex for many years without ever causing damage. The way they do that is by never going further than what feels good. You can do something else on those occasions and have anal sex another time. There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good. One of the most common ones is a stingy or friction sensation. Adding more lube will make it feel much better, so don't hesitate. Back off and go with something smaller, like one less finger or a smaller toy.